How do you feel the interaction during adolescents years impact your current relationships today?
With more post, more questions get posed as if I am some kind of love doctor or something. I think its more so people have a unique opportunity to express feelings without judgement on a different platform about sensitive topics. So a follower of the blog posed a question I thought was pretty interesting. She asked “how do you feel your negative interaction during your adolescents years impact your current relationships? I had to think long and hard as my adolescent years was a while ago, but when I thought about it, I came to the conclusion that my adolescent years shape my insight and how I approach relationships in my current years and how I interact in my current relationships as I don’t want to commit the same type of actions as before. I aim to cultivate quality relationships these days as, the negative world is getting lonelier and colder and you need a quality individual to build with for the rest of the years we have given on this earth.
I remember looking in the mirror trying to determine what exactly to say a pretty girl, who I knew nothing about, but wanted to get closer. I remember writing little notes down on paper to decipher what would be appropriate for me to say to a girl I might like, but didn’t want to fumble on my words. Then I begin to realize that these girls was just as lost as I was and we are all trying to find our way to the end goal of love. I actually have a friend from back during that era which was a girl, who really help me understand how to communicate on an intellectual level. We use to have conversation about all types of intelligent ideologies and begin to shape the type of woman I would like to communicate with on a daily basis.
I was an athlete, so it was plenty of girls who was checking me out and I didn’t even know it. I suffered from a lack of confidence when it came to talking to girls during that time because of the lack of quality male role model figure to shape my communication and interaction with a girl. As cool as everybody made it seem, I really didn’t lose my virginity until late in my adolescent years and felt uncool because I was the only dude who had not experienced the great phenomenon of SEX. The adolescent years were a strange time with so much innocence. I can honestly say, I loved hard during that era of life and was fortunate to experience young love before the reality of relationships ever came to the forefront of my mind.
Currently though, the times are different, my mind is different, my actions are different, as I understand over time the games I played with women impacted their life negatively in more ways than none. I have had woman come tell me how bad of a person I was during that time. I have also had some women come and tell me how much the games hurt their heart as wells as their mental state to the point of suicidal thoughts. I was devastated by these responses as I never had any intentions on hurting anybody in a such a manner. I really didn’t understand the impact of the manipulation on women until the manipulation was placed upon me in my future years, in which I will speak on at a later time. At the time I really didn’t understand what I was doing but, I have reconcile with God and each woman for my negative behavior to the best of my ability.
I am interested to see how the adolescent years impacted your interaction within relationship at this time. DO you have a person who you remember scarred you, but you find a way to overcome the heartbreak and have a successful relationship in the present time. Do you still hold a grudge on the actions committed to you? I found a way to forgive each and every person who have done me wrong in a relationship. Im eager to hear your thoughts on how you recover from toxic situations. We are all human and if we find a way to build our way to forgive those past moments, I think we can find a way to deliver our true selves to somebody who deserve everything we have to offer to the most current relationship. Drop a replay below so we can talk about it. Oh yea, don’t forget to subscribe. Love on Fire podcast on the way….. Stay up good Folks!!