Would you continue a relationship if you found out your partner was bi-sexual?
In a recent post “The Bedroom Significance” I was posed with a question from an individual whom I have communicated via this website and other social platform. At first I was stomp and did not know how to answer the question at all. However, I begin to analyze the world in today’s time and really came to the conclusion that the particular question is a probable scenario in today’s relationships. I am interested in the response to this question. It definitely comes with a double standard, as woman receiving this question or a woman giving this questions pose certain conflicts and challenges to societies’ assumptions.
If a man is found with another man, he can’t be considered Bi-sexual. He is then labeled “gay” by society and can’t come back to a woman after being with a man. However, it is possible for a woman to be in a relationship and jump the fence back and forth until they find the love they are wanting and yearning for no matter the sex of their partner to spend the rest of their life. I am interested to see the response to this particular topic.
My response to her question was this:
As a man, if I found out my woman was bi-sexual, I’m asking myself how will I be included in the sexual equation and is this really a relationship between her and I at that point? If we just together, what are we doing together? What are we accomplishing together? If she is bi-sexual chances are she is indecisive in her decisions with her sexuality and deciphering between the two sexes and exploring the possibilities. Im a grown man at this point and when entering into a relationship I want a concrete decision as it impacts my life as well as her life. It’s nothing wrong with a choice between two sex, however will I really call it a relationship? When two people are and involved and third parties comes in the mix controversy is normally created because of human nature being territorial regardless if the third party is the same sex or opposite sex.
I don’t think I would call it a relationship if she want to entertain another women within the relationship. I think I would further explore the possibilities of finding somebody who I could have to myself and give all of myself to accomplish my goals and minimize of the distraction of another party in the equation of the relationship. I don’t think i would continue as a relationship, but as a friendship, or friends with benefits type deal to have fun with life versus entertaining a relationship with that particular woman.
When I think about relationships and the end goal of a relationships i.e. marriage, having another party distracting from the end goal would separate me from any type of intimate dealings with that woman on that particular level or achieving anything further. So to me it does not matter if the person is a woman or a man, the relationship could no longer be if the other partner is entertaining somebody else sexually.
What are you folks thoughts on this matter? Comment below, I will be sure to hit you back!!! I want to hear from you folks!! Love On Fire Podcast Coming Soon. For now we just communicated up here so we can further our progress in our relationships.
Further Conversation Questions to Ponder!
Do you think is ok to have an another party intertwine in a relationship of two people? Why or why not?